Advice is something that people love to give, whether we ask for it or not. Over our lifetimes, we will receive an awful lot of other people’s opinions—some good and some not-so-good. I have received a lot of both. Because of this I’ve learnt how to decipher between what is helpful and what is not.
There are two pieces of advice that I have been given over the years that I would consider to be some of the best. The first is, “Don’t stress about the small stuff.” As common sense as this may seem, I think that it has gotten me through some tough scenarios in life. I have learned to let little things go and to really pick my battles when it comes to conflict. The other piece of advice that I consider one of the best has to do with parenting. A wise woman once told me, “Speak to your children as you would like to be spoken to.” I adopted this wisdom into my own parenting methods by speaking to my kids like equals. And so far, it’s worked in raising confident, self-sufficient children.
I, personally, don’t like to dish out advice unless someone asks for it. I’m happy to share my thoughts and opinions when solicited. However I’ve learnt that telling someone how to live their life does not work. In other words, people seldom change their ways to accommodate another person’s suggestions. This is not to say I haven’t appreciated advice and suggestions from friends and loved ones over the years, but I’ve learned to trust my own instincts along the way, too.
I’d love to hear your opinion on advice giving and receiving. Also, please feel free to share the best piece of advice you’ve ever received in the comments below.