When did parenting become this vicious judgmental battle of sorts between parents? Was it always like this and I’m just now noticing because I’m a parent? Why does it seem like everything is a race when it comes to our children? Most of all, why so much judgment? Don’t get me wrong, I know there are some parents out there that I question the need for some form of discipline?!
“My son was toilet trained at 12 months.” “My daughter was able to speak at 6 months.” “All my kids started School at age 4 and are at the top of the class.” “Sure some kids hit milestones earlier than others but chances are a lot of parents are exaggerating a little ! Every one pretends their child is this perfect text book case and feels the need to brag about it. For what? So that some judgemental people can think that the way they raise their children is some how superior.
I do things my way and I admit a lot of the times I make wrong decisions or sometimes I’m at my wits end and I really don’t know what to do. There are people out there that would judge me. I know people will question why I choose to do things the way I do but guess what, MY way is the way that works for me and my family, most of the time.
My daughter is nearly 3 and still doesn’t use the toilet, despite me trying to toilet train her. (insert your judgmental opinion here) I wasn’t going to play the game of changing and washing 50 pairs of soiled pants from a younger age. It just wasn’t for me. Instead, we transitioned from pull ups, which many people frown upon and now we’re progressing to my daughter actually sitting on the toilet. I am assured she will get there eventually.
I hear people brag about how every night they sit the family down at the kitchen table for a home cooked meal and how healthy they eat. My daughter is super picky. I rather give her something she will eat than watch her eat nothing at all. Her favourite food is fruit, carrots, chicken nuggets, fish fingers and cheese! So I let her eat her favourite foods and keep adding in different foods and snacks to attempt to get her to try them. I’m sure many people think this is wrong, but I works for us and she is fit and healthy!
Bedtime. E is in a routine and I don’t like her routine broken very often. Some people think the child should fit around you, but she is still very young and we chose to have a child so sleep wise we fit in around her. It works for us and she sleeps very well due to her routine.
I can go on with all the things that others might think are wrong or not right.
The point is, my family is far from perfect. We do things that fit our family and lifestyle. My daughter is healthy, happy, and loved. Where we lack in one area, we make up for it in another. I’m honest about who my daughter is and I don’t hide her so called imperfections. I don’t want to be a part of the Mummy wars . Honestly, I rather you sit with someone and moan, and laugh about how difficult parenting can be instead if.
Every child is different and they will all develop at different stages , what is more important is if your child is happy.