Here are a few things I have learned from being a mummy and lessons I will no doubt learn all over again when the new wriggler joins the family in October.
For the billionth time, Parenting is so hard. Thankfully, the good times outweigh the trying ones, but that doesn’t change the fact that it’s a 24/7 365 job, that’s constantly changing. Once you become a parent, “dull days” cease to exist. They are replaced with emotional roller coaster rides that grab you by the heart, and then take you and your patience to the ends of the earth and back.
During my short time so far as a first-time parent, only four years which have flown by, I have learned valuable lessons the hard way that have led to rules I now parent by. Below are 10 that help me maintain my sanity (for the most part) on a daily basis.
1. Laugh at yourself- First and foremost, Laugh. Parenting is hard enough, if you don’t find the humour in it, you will go crazy by the end of the first 6-weeks.
2. Laugh at your child- Kids are hysterical, laugh at them. Most of all, laugh with them.
3. Forgive yourself- There is no such thing as the perfect parent. No. Such. Thing. We all make mistakes. If at first you don’t succeed… you will eventually.
4. Forgive your child. Those little shits… mean well. Just like us, kids make mistakes too. It’s part of life. For little ones, life is all about trying new things and testing limits. They are bound to screw up a few (hundred) times. Emily still does things that drive me crazy.
5. The Joneses are assholes- Damn those Joneses trying to set standards and pass judgements. Pay no attention to the talking heads, they don’t know you or your child.
6. Your instinct is right, listen to it. Mum. Dad. Listen to your inner parent, it knows what’s best. Don’t let someone or some book make you think otherwise. Start with your instinct, then go from there.
7. The “Right Way” is the way that works for your family. Your family is the new normal. Don’t let a book tell you your instinct is wrong. You know your child(ren) better than anyone else, work within those bounds.
8. Say I love you and hug your family everyday. Who doesn’t love a little acknowledgement and affection? I know kids especially do. So give it to them. Make there be no question just how loved they are.
9. The dishes can wait. Don’t sacrifice your family time. Take the time to be with your family now, because tomorrow is not promised. Besides, the dishes will always be there. I am still hoping one day my husband will let me have a dishwasher!
10. Love every second and every stage because when they pass, you will miss them dearly. Yes, even the really annoying stages. Everyday goes by so fast, try to remember and document as much as possible. – This is one thing I will be reminding myself off when the next one comes along, especially at the moments when things seem really hard.