“Don’t wait until life isn’t hard anymore before you decide to be happy”
For so many years I struggled, feeling like my life was always going to be hard. I allowed the hard times and stresses of being a single mother dictate my happiness. It took me a very long time to really understand that my outlook on my life was contributing to my unhappiness. During this time i made some very bad choices.
I was creating a self fulfilling prophecy for myself. Telling myself that life was too hard, MADE it suck and too hard. I was not looking at any of the good things that I had in my life. Only focusing on the bad. I didn’t realise at the time that was keeping me in a constant state of unhappiness.
I finally realised that I had the ability to CHOOSE happiness. That I could focus on the good things in my life instead of all the negative. Dwelling on the hard times, bad things and bad life choices that had happened in my past kept me stuck in the past. Not looking forward. This can happen to the best of us.
We all have different stories and circumstances that have led to us being single mothers. And YES being a single mum can definitely be hard at times, but we don’t have to let those hard times make us hard. It can be very easy to allow the hurt and anger from our past keep us in an unhappy state.
Choosing happiness means you choose to keep good and positive people in your life. As opposed to emotional vampires or toxic people. After all, how can you be happy if everyone else around you is miserable. Sucking away your happiness.
Do you find yourself always getting involved with people who do not treat you well? Are you sticking with friends who are always bringing drama into your life? Those types of people will bring the wrong kind of energy into your life.
The energy we project is what we tend to attract. So if you want to have a happy life with happier more positive people in it then you will have to choose happiness.
Too often we also dwell on the things that didn’t go well in our lives. Instead of realising that maybe those things needed to happen for us to get where we want to be in life. We learn from our mistakes, our bad errors in judgement.
Loosing my job before i had my eldest was a worry. However it allowed me the freedom to be at home with my kids. Once both of my children started school i was able to go back out to work, become more financially stable and live a better life.
If you find yourself still thinking about or dwelling on your past from years ago, you are keeping yourself in an unhappy state. Choosing happiness means that you make a distinct choice to not allow negativity to rule your life. I chose to be happy and have since met someone who i love dearly.
This and other changes, helped me finally break out of that state of unhappiness. I had found myself stuck in for so long. When bad things do happen, yes it does effect me but nothing like it used to. I no longer let things get to me, i have chosen to let things go over my head.
Things may not always go the way I plan or want BUT …
I won’t wait until life isn’t hard anymore before I will be happy.
